Marriage in Islam =)

As-salaam ‘Alaykum Warahmat Allah Wabarakatuh

People around me, busy talking about their wedding plans. Most of my friends and cousin are getting married soon. Some of them are very happy, and some  of the are not. Marriage in islam is has a wide concept. Is not only about male-female, but its more than that.

In glorious Qur’an, Allah told us many thing about marriage. Morever, the best example ever, our beloved Prophet Muhammad salallah ‘alaih wassalam remind us about baitul-islam (marriage). How important it is. I would like to recall some prophet’s (pbuh) saying about marriage.

A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet asking how the Prophet worshipped (Allah), and when they were informed about that, they considered their worship insufficient and said, “Where are we from the Prophet as his past and future sins have been forgiven.” Then one of them said, “I will offer the prayer throughout the night forever.” The other said, “I will fast throughout the year and will not break my fast.” The third said, “I will keep away from the women and will not marry forever.” Allah’s Apostle came to them and said, “Are you the same people who said so-and-so? By Allah, I am more submissive to Allah and more afraid of Him than you; yet I fast and break my fast, I do sleep and I also marry women. So he who does not follow my tradition in religion, is not from me (not one of my followers).”

( Marriage quote from Sahih Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)

Today we can see, some muslim who dont wanna get marriage in order to fulfill their dreams. Some of them said, “I love Allah and I dont need anyone else”. Thats true. Allah is sufficient enough for us, but that doesnt mean we can neglect marriage order. Marriage is not WAJIB, but its sunnah. Prophet PBUH said

“Nikah (marriage) is my Sunna. He who shuns my Sunna is not of me.”

Sadly, there are lots our muslimah sister who dont wanna get married just  because they are afraid to lose their freedom. Marriage is not a prison. And it doesnt mean, but marrying someone u gonna be a prisoner.

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

“When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear                                       Allah regarding the remaining half.”                                        ( Marriage quotation from Bayhqi)

This is a very beautiful hadees from our beloved Prophet PBUH. Pious muslimah inshaAllah can fulfill half deen of her husband. What can I say more about this? Every muslimah in this world (inshaAllah) wanna be the best wife ever to their loved ones, not only to gain happiness in this world, but also in hereafter (akhiraah). But we can see changes in this last 2 decades. Women become busy in their job-life and begin neglecting their role as wife and mother (may Allah save us from this). I hope every sister, to make sure they dont forget to fulsill their responsible. I dont mean that every muslimah should be a housewife and spend 24hours in home, doing nothing. Me, myself inshaAllah will become a doctor soon. All i am saying is, make sure u dont forget the responsible.

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

`The worst among you are your bachelors!’

( Marriage quotes from Abu Ya’la and Tabarani.)

Its not a curse, in fact its a good reminder. One who married is different than who bachelor. A woman who has married, and have childrens (inshaAllah) gain more reward than one who haven’t. Why i said so? Woman who gave birth, who take care of her child, who serve her husband, who raise her child with good manner and knowledge is more better than who never had a chance to do all this. Yes, Allah knows better who is good and who is bad. And Allah see the intention of every deeds, but… one who get married, will also reward by many title as “mother”, “wife”, “mother-in-law”, “grandmother” and so so on.

Lets check more hadeeth on marriage

1.”If Allah grants a Muslim a righteous wife, this helps him preserve half of his religion (faith). He should, therefore, fear Allah as regards the other half.” ( Marriage quotes from At-Tabarani and Al-Hakim)

2.”Four things bring one joy: a righteous wife, a spacious house, a pious neighbor and a comfortable riding animal.”

3.`The most perfect believer in faith is the one whose character is finest and who is kindest to his wife.’ ( Quotes on marriage from Tirmidhi and Nasa’i) – Masha Allah.. (A great reminder to every brother out there =D )

4.”When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.” ( Marriage quotation from Bayhqi)

5.”O young people! Whoever among you can support awife should marry, for that is more modest for the gaze and safer for your private parts.” ( Marriage quote from Sahih Muslim, Sahih Bukhari)

May Allah reward us with good life partner, ameen.

As Allah promised in glorious qur’an :

Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable (an nur : 26)


=) saffa Islam

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  5. JIYA
    Jul 01, 2011 @ 12:10:01

    SALAAM WALAIKUM! I AM NOT SURE WHEN WILL I GET MARRIED .WILL I OR I WONT….??BROKE OFF IN THE RELATIONSHIP MADE ME DOWN!

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    • saffaislam
      Jul 01, 2011 @ 14:49:10

      Do not worry sis. Allah will grant you a righteous husband InshaAllah. Have faith with Allah. I know by waiting it hurts, but be patient. Verily Allah loves the sabirun. I am wishing you all the best and may you stay happy always. Ameen

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  6. HabibiM
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 00:20:48

    Very nice article. I think marriage can be restrictive if you have the wrong mate. If you have the husband which shares your out-going nature then you will never miss the freedom you once had when you were single.

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  7. Abdul Wahi
    Jan 31, 2012 @ 16:43:39

    I am a gay. I hate being a gay but I cant help it. I have no feeling for women at all. I want to have a normal life. I want to have kids. I want to have my own family. But how to marry a woman when I dont have feeling towards them? Why Allah must create gays? Why cant he just create normal people? Is it because He has created the Hell, so,if there’s no gays, His hell will be empty. To make sure His hell is full, He creates gays, lesbians, kafirun, etc. Is that true? Please clarify. Tired of praying for His answer already.

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    • UMS - UNIDENTIFIED MUSLIM SISTER :)
      Jul 16, 2012 @ 11:09:13

      If Allah created the world without tempations and if He created the world without good and bad then we would all be Angels – we’d all do good because we’d have no desire to do anything else. Being human is hard, because we have all these temptations, but the rewards for those who try their best (even if they never reach their end goal, but always try) for the sake of pleasing Allah, following the way of the Prophet (peace be upon him) and becoming a better person are massive. We all have troubles and struggles and we will do untill the day we die; It says in a Hadith that the world is like a prison for the believer and a paradise for the non believer.

      Remember though, Islam should be a balance between love for Allah, fear of Him and hope of His mercy, so nomatter how much you’ve think you’ve sinned or how bad you think you are, you should always hope and pray for Allah’s forgiveness, pray sincerly for what is best for you – not what you want. Sometimes these are two completely different things..

      Anyways, insha’Allah you will read this and my ramblings make some sense.

      Jazak Allahu khair for your honesty and insha’Allah you’ll be blessed with what’s best for you 🙂

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    • Amira
      Jul 21, 2012 @ 04:10:41

      Brother. Expect the.best from Allah & he’ll give you the best. Even us muslims feel desires. But we resist them because we know Hannah is better. I suggest you do the same. Marrying is the prophets sunnah. If you feel no desire to marry. Then fast as much as you can. & stay away from people who encourage the feelings you feel. Because they will.not benefit you. Neither will those feelings. Allah created us to worship him. & those who worship him are promised Hannah. So lets try our. Best

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    May 07, 2012 @ 06:35:12

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  9. Z.Faryad
    Dec 11, 2012 @ 10:01:15

    very beautiful well said
    Mashallah

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