Marriage in Islam =)

As-salaam ‘Alaykum Warahmat Allah Wabarakatuh

People around me, busy talking about their wedding plans. Most of my friends and cousin are getting married soon. Some of them are very happy, and some  of the are not. Marriage in islam is has a wide concept. Is not only about male-female, but its more than that.

In glorious Qur’an, Allah told us many thing about marriage. Morever, the best example ever, our beloved Prophet Muhammad salallah ‘alaih wassalam remind us about baitul-islam (marriage). How important it is. I would like to recall some prophet’s (pbuh) saying about marriage.

A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet asking how the Prophet worshipped (Allah), and when they were informed about that, they considered their worship insufficient and said, “Where are we from the Prophet as his past and future sins have been forgiven.” Then one of them said, “I will offer the prayer throughout the night forever.” The other said, “I will fast throughout the year and will not break my fast.” The third said, “I will keep away from the women and will not marry forever.” Allah’s Apostle came to them and said, “Are you the same people who said so-and-so? By Allah, I am more submissive to Allah and more afraid of Him than you; yet I fast and break my fast, I do sleep and I also marry women. So he who does not follow my tradition in religion, is not from me (not one of my followers).”

( Marriage quote from Sahih Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)

Today we can see, some muslim who dont wanna get marriage in order to fulfill their dreams. Some of them said, “I love Allah and I dont need anyone else”. Thats true. Allah is sufficient enough for us, but that doesnt mean we can neglect marriage order. Marriage is not WAJIB, but its sunnah. Prophet PBUH said

“Nikah (marriage) is my Sunna. He who shuns my Sunna is not of me.”

Sadly, there are lots our muslimah sister who dont wanna get married just  because they are afraid to lose their freedom. Marriage is not a prison. And it doesnt mean, but marrying someone u gonna be a prisoner.

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

“When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear                                       Allah regarding the remaining half.”                                        ( Marriage quotation from Bayhqi)

This is a very beautiful hadees from our beloved Prophet PBUH. Pious muslimah inshaAllah can fulfill half deen of her husband. What can I say more about this? Every muslimah in this world (inshaAllah) wanna be the best wife ever to their loved ones, not only to gain happiness in this world, but also in hereafter (akhiraah). But we can see changes in this last 2 decades. Women become busy in their job-life and begin neglecting their role as wife and mother (may Allah save us from this). I hope every sister, to make sure they dont forget to fulsill their responsible. I dont mean that every muslimah should be a housewife and spend 24hours in home, doing nothing. Me, myself inshaAllah will become a doctor soon. All i am saying is, make sure u dont forget the responsible.

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

`The worst among you are your bachelors!’

( Marriage quotes from Abu Ya’la and Tabarani.)

Its not a curse, in fact its a good reminder. One who married is different than who bachelor. A woman who has married, and have childrens (inshaAllah) gain more reward than one who haven’t. Why i said so? Woman who gave birth, who take care of her child, who serve her husband, who raise her child with good manner and knowledge is more better than who never had a chance to do all this. Yes, Allah knows better who is good and who is bad. And Allah see the intention of every deeds, but… one who get married, will also reward by many title as “mother”, “wife”, “mother-in-law”, “grandmother” and so so on.

Lets check more hadeeth on marriage

1.”If Allah grants a Muslim a righteous wife, this helps him preserve half of his religion (faith). He should, therefore, fear Allah as regards the other half.” ( Marriage quotes from At-Tabarani and Al-Hakim)

2.”Four things bring one joy: a righteous wife, a spacious house, a pious neighbor and a comfortable riding animal.”

3.`The most perfect believer in faith is the one whose character is finest and who is kindest to his wife.’ ( Quotes on marriage from Tirmidhi and Nasa’i) – Masha Allah.. (A great reminder to every brother out there =D )

4.”When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.” ( Marriage quotation from Bayhqi)

5.”O young people! Whoever among you can support awife should marry, for that is more modest for the gaze and safer for your private parts.” ( Marriage quote from Sahih Muslim, Sahih Bukhari)

May Allah reward us with good life partner, ameen.

As Allah promised in glorious qur’an :

Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable (an nur : 26)

=) saffa Islam


A reminder~!

5 mins ago, someone asked me “why don’t you write something about me”

Salam’alaykum Warahmat Allah Wabarakatuh

Let me introduce you, with someone who is “mysterious” and slightly confusing. He against muslim, but he never say bad about Islam. How it would be? Can a person who loves Islam will hate muslim at the same time?

He also abuse sisters and  mothers. It doesnt matter who ever the “women” is. A man should be women’s shield. I still remember, one of my brother told me speech of prophet Muhammad salallah alaih wassalam (On Haji Wada – the last speech from Him PBUH) is – To threat female with respect. So sad, not only him, i can see many others who provoke females, abuse them and do whatever which has forbid in Islam. Why?

Well there are many Prophet’s saying about women, let me share with u =)

Women are the twin halves of men.

The world and all things in it are valuable; but the most valuable thing in the world is a virtuous woman.

Verily a great number of women are assembled near my family, complaining of their hubands; and those men who ill-treat their wives do not behave well. He is not of my way who teacheth a woman to stray.

Whoever doeth good to girls, it will be a curtain to him from hell-fire.

Whoever befriendeth two girls till they come of age, will be in the next world along with me, like my two fingers joining each other.

Shall I not point out to you the best of virtues? It is your doing good to your daughter when she is returned to you having been divorced by her husband.

God enjoins you to treat women well, for they are your mothers, daughters, aunts.

The rights of women are sacred. See that women are maintained in the rights assigned to them.

Do not prevent your women from coming to the mosque.

Masha-Allah. Islam protect women and their modesty. Sadly, our own muslim brothers cant protect her sister, mother.

Fear Allah, everyone. Allah know who is who. U can pretend infront of everyone. Hide ur real identity, come on net with any nick and abuse. But remember, one day, everyone of us will stand infront of Allah and answer on every single of our deed. And on that day, no one can help u, except Allah subhana wata’ala. And how can Allah help u? Be HIS helper. Spread ma’ruf and avoid sin. Nobody is perfect, and Allah has mentioned about it. But Allah loves one who try to change his fate than one who sit and do nothing.

Wallahu’alam bis sawwab

Prophet Muhammad salallah alaih wassalam said:

“Be in the world like a traveller, or like a passer on, and reckon yourself as of the dead”

Be a traveller on this planet, ghareebah fid dunya……

inshaAllah and Allah will make you a King in your kingdom (Jannah) – ameen